trust or admiration

In a relationship, trust is not built on successive successes, achievements, gains, brilliance and overcoming obstacles.

Consistent moral elevation, competence and irreproachable behaviour bring admiration, not trust.

Trust is built on the inconsistencies of our humanity,

on the inevitability of our mistakes and stumbles, our successes and corrections.

Trust is structured on the assumption of our personal and emotional responsibility, on the ups and downs of relationships;

it is reinforced with each repair and reconnection; with each trigger dismantled,

with each delayed retort,

with each commitment honoured.

Admiration puts us in touch with our full potential, with the extraordinary, with the incredible...

But it is trust that maintains the alliance in pain and doubt.

Admiration is about high performance, it is about doing a lot and doing it well.

Trust is about responsibility, it is about accepting and dealing with the fluctuations in our achievements, it is about not being dazzled by our successes, nor defragmented by our losses.

Admiration is competition and comparison.

Trust is cooperation and connection.

Admiration is about grandiosity.

Trust is about courage and generosity, towards yourself and others.

Admiration is about illusion and glorification.

Trust is about humanisation, surrender and dedication.

If you want to receive admiration, continue on the infinite journey of doing better and better.

If you want to build trust, learn to walk side by side.

If you want to be admired, continue on the endless journey of doing better and better.

If you want to build trust, learn to walk side by side, shoulder to shoulder; learn to see the beauty of good enough and to say ‘me too’.